Constance Hall is known to have strong opinions about womanhood, and she recently posted a photo on Instagram slamming those who argue that stay-at-home moms can’t be feminists. She thinks this statement is going too far.
She points out that not only do stay-at-home moms have “a hard enough job and a lonely enough job,” but also that the “non working mother has changed, she’s busy and fierce.” Say it loud and proud, girl!
…and whether her decisions to stay at home were based on a child’s disability, a financial decision or the fact that she just fucking likes it… She can still be a feminist.
People often make the mistake of thinking that they can tell stay at home mums what they can and can’t do… “Con can do it, she doesn’t work” “Babe go to he shops for me, grab me a flat white, bring it to my job but first stop by Franks with a carton of Peroni coz I owe him one” “You can’t put the kids in daycare, you don’t even work. Try working and mothering then get back to me.” I don’t really care, I’ve been a flat out working mum and accused of not ‘mumming’ properly and a stay at home one, people make assumptions about each, you just have to learn to be stingy with your fucks. ? One thing that has shat me to tears of late however is the statement that stay at home mums can’t be feminists… ? What ? The ? Fuck? ? Now that’s just going too far. Mums who don’t have paid employment absolutely can be feminists. Exercising your rights to raise your family the way that works best for you is a fucking feminist thing to do. ? Equality can absolutely exist in a house that one parent remains at home in and I for one have had to fight hard for it, so I’m not letting anyone tell me it’s not real. ? And do you know what else? It’s just plain mean. It’s a hard enough job and a lonely enough job without the legendary fierce hearts that you look up to and respect telling you that your not allowed to be in the crew that you believe in, making you feel like you’re some kind of 50s house wife that does nothing but bake, iron and put kids to bed in time to give your heroic husband a much deserved blow job and ball caress. ? The non working mother has changed, she’s busy and fierce and whether her decisions to stay at home were based on a child’s disability, a financial decision or the fact that she just fucking likes it… She can still be a feminist. ? Because saying that she cant doesn’t only insult Stay at home mums…….. it insults feminism too. ??
xx, The FabFitFun Team