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Going through a big change, whether it’s a relationship breakup, an unexpected death in your family, or a big move, can be overwhelming, stressful, and exhausting. Many people find it hard to adjust to intense changes and often suffer mentally because of that.
If you’re having a hard time dealing with change, your best bet is to seek professional help. However, the expert tips below are a great place to start.
Acknowledge the impact it’s having on your life
Ignoring the effect of this change isn’t going to do you any favors. Dr. Amanda K. Darnley, a licensed psychologist and founder of Chrysocolla Counseling, PLLC, says, “Acknowledging your feelings is important. Not judging yourself for having those feelings is equally important.”
Stick to a schedule
When it feels like everything has been turned upside down, a schedule can be comforting. Adina Mahalli, certified mental health consultant, says, “This creates a sense of normalcy despite change and provides you with an anchor, which can help ease your mind.”
Take care of yourself
Don’t ignore your physical health even if you’re not feeling your best mentally. Dr. Darnley’s suggestion? “Eat healthily and regularly, maintain your sleep schedule (aim for seven to eight hours a night), and carve out time for exercise,” she says. “No one is at their best when they are hungry and tired.”
Have a support system in place
If you’re overwhelmed by change, you should never isolate yourself. “Lean on your friends and family,” says Dr. Vassilia Binensztok, a Florida-based licensed and board-certified mental health counselor. “Make sure you are reaching out to people who can be empathetic and supportive,” Dr. Darnley adds.
If you feel like you have no one to turn to, there’s always the option of finding a support group. Dr. Darnley says, “Seek out people who have successfully handled a similar situation before. Support groups (online or in the community) are a great resource and might help you feel less isolated or alone.”
Indulge in soothing rituals
Whatever your version of self-care looks like, make sure you carve out time for it. “What helps you feel calmer or what activities usually give you joy?” asks psychologist Julia Beltsiou. “It could be a morning run, a tea before work, meditation, connecting with a good friend, or taking a bath before sleep.”
Don’t beat yourself up
It’s easy to get frustrated with yourself when you think you can handle the situation better. Dr. Binensztok says, “Remind yourself that anxiety from big changes is normal and temporary. Accept that there will be ups and downs along the way. The key is not to fight it but to flow with it.”
Focus on how you can make things better
Think about how you can make these changes work for you. “Focus on concrete steps in mastering change to help feel more in control,” Beltsiou says. “Being proactive in handling change can be a source of pride and help us feel more in charge during times of uncertainty.”
xx, The FabFitFun Team
