Breakups suck. Whether we’re the dumper or the dumpee, the ending of a relationship can leave us hurt and dejected. There’s no way around it, it’s going to be rough, but here are some things we find helpful after a breakup.
We’re no doctors, but we always prescribe a healthy dose of laughter because it is, after all, the best medicine…especially after a breakup. So, laugh! Laugh a lot. Watch your favorite sitcoms, hang out with your funniest friends, go to a comedy club — whatever it is, do what it takes to get you laughing. Having fun won’t make the pain go away, but it helps you forget about it and even those few hours will help. It’s hard to be sad when you’re snorting and crying from laughter is the best way to cry.
Try Something New
When you date someone, you make memories with him, or her — the places you go, the movies you watch, and restaurants you eat at all have emotional ties to your ex, whether you like it or not. Avoid those places and travel somewhere you’ve never gone before, watch something you normally wouldn’t, and try foods you’ve never tasted before. Recovering from a breakup mandates you forget about a person to a certain extent and the best way to let go of the old is to embrace the new.
Talk It Out
We know it’s easy to be crippled by sadness and it’s tempting to retreat into yourself. It can be hard to think about the breakup, let alone talk about it. As tough as it might be, you need to talk about it and let your thoughts out of your head. Keeping them locked in only allows dark clouds to choke your mind. Talking to someone not only helps you sort through your own thoughts and feelings, but it gives you the opportunity to draw from others’ experiences and the lessons they learned.
Surround Yourself with Loved Ones
Losing someone you love doesn’t mean you lost everyone you love. Your friends and family will be there for you, especially when you’re going through a breakup. Even though they might be afraid to bring it up or approach you because you want your own space, hit up your friends to grab a drink, have a meal, or to just even watch Friends reruns. The above points will come about naturally when you surround yourself with good people.
Feel Your Emotions
This might sound counterintuitive, but you need to let yourself feel all the sadness and pain. Face the breakup head on and be sad. Cry, scream, and throw something. Let it all out. Internalizing your emotions and denying them will only cause them to brew inside of you and cripple you from within. Then, once you’re done being sad, you pick up the pieces of your heart, rebuild it to be better and stronger, and move on with life.
What are some other ways you help yourself heal after a breakup? Let us know in the comments below!
xx, The FabFitFun Team