Nothing kills the mood faster than when you or your partner rolls over to check their phone right before you’re about to get it on. Not only does the constant contact with your phone make you less present, it’s also rude or disrespectful to your partner…especially during a vulnerable moment like sex.
So whether you make the bedroom a “no phone” zone, or just put it on airplane mode before getting into sex mode, here are some tips on how to keep it out of the bedroom.
Lose the light. You’ve heard it before, but the blue light from your cell phone can make it hard to fall asleep — and it’s similar to the effect it can have on your sex life. With your phone constantly lighting up from texts and notifications, it becomes difficult to shift all your attention to your partner. Opt for some candles or a soft light to help you be more present and concentrate on each other.
Get everyone else out of your room. We don’t mean actual humans, but with your friends and family just a phone call or text message away, you’re never really alone. We’ve all been there — when you’re in the moment and your text alert rings, your mind wanders even if you don’t open it. If this happens during sex, it can get a bit difficult to enjoy yourself or even reach a climax because you’re distracted. Avoid the situation altogether and leave your phone in another room (make sure it’s on silent!).
Disconnect to reconnect. If you and your partner are constantly on your phones chatting with other people or checking social media, chances are, you aren’t paying enough attention to each other. That’s why it’s important to unplug from the world to make sure your partner isn’t feeling neglected. Try setting a “no cell phone” rule for the majority of the time you spend together or use waiting times (like when you’re in line for food) to check your phone.
xx, The FabFitFun Team
